If we’re being honest, oftentimes connecting with the parents of our students feels tedious and unproductive. But, as much as we might like to solely work with our students, the truth is, parents are the most influential people in our students’ lives. In this episode, we’re talking all about what to do when partnering with parents doesn’t seem to be working and what you can do to provide parents with resources, build trust, and equip your small group leaders to do the same.
- Why we should bother partnering with parents in our youth ministry (1:19)
- What the current makeup of a typical American family should mean for youth ministries and how we partner and connect with families (11:03)
- How to have balance between believing your students and having an open opinion about their parents (19:43)
- How to partner with parents of different backgrounds (21:19)
- How to help small group leaders and volunteers effectively step into the worlds of students and parents (25:34)
- How to build trust with parents (31:18)
- How to resource parents (43:36)
QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE
Parents have more influence than we'll ever have as church leaders, and parents matter far more than many of us think. —Kristen Ivy Click To TweetAs youth leaders, we need to be students of what’s happening in the lives of parents. —Kristen Ivy Click To TweetAsking parents QUESTIONS can help you get a pulse on what’s happening in your youth ministry. Ask parents, “What do you need from me? What’s going on in your kid’s world? What’s going on in your world?” —George Lin Click To TweetYouth leaders: Define your relationship with parents over and over again. Remind parents you’re on the same team. —Crystal Chiang Click To TweetThe easiest way to build trust with parents is to communicate consistently, clearly, and concisely. —Brett Talley Click To Tweet
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
Books: Phase Guides
Resource: The Phase Project
VOICES IN THIS EPISODE
Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).
Kristen Ivy is the executive director of messaging at The reThink Group, commonly referred to as Orange. Before beginning her career at Orange in 2006, Kristen earned her bachelors of education from Baylor University in 2004 and a Master of Divinity from Mercer University in 2009. She worked in the public school system as a high school Biology and English teacher where she learned firsthand the joy and importance of influencing the next generation. She and her husband Matt are currently parenting their Kindergartener, Sawyer, preschooler, Hensley, and newborn, Raleigh, through the phases.
After seven years spent leading student ministry at a multi-site church, George now hangs with the Orange Students team developing curriculum resources for ministry leaders. He has a passion for growing the next generation through changing the lives of leaders and their teams. When he’s not working with Orange or consulting with organizations across the country, George loves to cook, spend time with his wife Kiana, their daughter AJ, and hike with their two German Shepherds.
Crystal is the Executive Director of Student Strategy at at Orange. Before that, she spent 10 years as a high school teacher and student ministry leader, doing everything from leading small groups to speaking to curriculum design. Crystal and her husband, Tom, live in Alpharetta, GA with an ill-tempered chihuahua named Javier.
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