RYM 063: How To Help Parents And Teenagers Connect About Life And Faith At Home

It’s no secret that parents and teenagers don’t always see eye to eye. Yet, as ministry leaders, we know just how important it is for parents and teenagers to connect throughout the middle school and high school years. This week, join the Orange Students team for a conversation with Dr. Kara Powell on what youth leaders can do to help parents and teens connect about life and faith at home, and how your church can be a place that helps families grow WITH one other—instead of growing apart.

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  • Parents matter so much in a student’s faith journey. (3:00)
  • We want the Church to be the safe place for parents to go to. (8:30)
  • We want the Church to be a place that grows with families. (10:00)
  • Faith isn’t static, it’s a process. (21:00)
  • Ask your teenagers: “What is something you believe about life or God that you think I don’t? And what is something you no longer believe about life or God that you think I still do?” (22:30)
  • Communicate to the parents of your ministry that their kid’s faith is evolving and will continue to change. (23:30)
  • According to statistics, a parent’s relationship tends to improve after they turn 18. (35:00)
  • The best gift we can give a kid is to help their parent be a better parent. (38:00)


Resource: Growing Young 

Resource: The Phase Project 

Resource: Orange Conference 

Resource: Free book chapter and Growing With Parenting Quiz 


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CJ is the Managing Editor for XP3 High School at Orange and one of the hosts and producers of Rethinking Youth Ministry, a podcast raising the bar for student leaders everywhere. CJ has been leading small groups for middle school students at North Point Community Church since 2007, which means he’s probably spent more time talking to middle schoolers than adults in his life. He also placed 5th in his 8th grade class field day fun run. CJ and his wife, Teri, live in Alpharetta, Georgia, with their son, Harley, and their robot vacuum, Barbara.


Dr. Kara E. Powell is the Executive Director of the Fuller Youth Institute (FYI) and a faculty member at Fuller Theological Seminary. Named by Christianity Today as one of 50 Women to Watch, Kara also serves as a Youth and Family Strategist for Orange, and is the author or co-author of The Sticky Faith Guide for Your Family, Sticky Faith Curriculum, Can I Ask That?, Deep Justice Journeys, and the Good Sex Youth Ministry Curriculum. Kara lives in Pasadena, California, with her husband, Dave, who is a medical device engineer, and their children, Nathan, Krista, and Jessica.


Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).



Charlie is an XP3 Orange Specialist at Orange after spending the past 20 years working with students in educational and ministry settings. Most recently, Charlie spent 12 years as the middle school youth pastor in a thriving Methodist church in the Metro Atlanta area. Charlie grew up in rural Illinois but has been living in metro Atlanta, GA for the past 14 years. She lives with her husband Eric, her sometimes snarky but lovable daughter, and their three pups.

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