RYM 061: Understanding How You’re Wired As A Youth Ministry Leader

We’re all wired in our own way, and it’s likely that looks different from the people around us. And while that might seem obvious, what’s not always obvious is how the way we’re wired can affect the ministries we lead. That’s why it’s so important to spend time getting to know yourself! On this episode, join ministry leaders for a conversation about understanding how you’re wired and how knowing yourself better can help you become a more effective youth ministry leader.

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  • The more you know how you’re wired, the more effective you can be in ministry. (2:30)
  • The way you lead your ministry is so closely tied to how you’re wired. (2:45)
  • Who I am affects the way that I lead. (3:00)
  • Figuring out what you’re not good at is one of the best gifts. (6:00)
  • What are the best tools you can use to get to know yourself better? (13:30)
  • Don’t make the mistake of assuming the world sees you the way you see yourself. (15:10)
  • If we don’t continue learning after taking a personality test, we can fall shorter than we did before taking the test. (23:00)
  • When we know ourselves better, it’s easier for us to have the language to speak into those things of other people. (30:00)
  • A lot of times, we wait until we are in a bad place to find out who we are. (34:00)


Website: Enneagram

Website: Strengthsfinder

Website: RightPath 360 Assessment 

Website: DISC Profile 

Website: Meyers Briggs 

Website: Four Temperaments Test 

Book: The Road Back to You

Website: Judgment Index 

Resource: Rethinking Youth Ministry Podcast Episode: “How to Handle Conflict as a Youth Ministry Leader” 


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Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).



Tom Shefchunas is the Executive Director of Student Strategy at Orange. In this role, he leads the development and strategy for XP3 Middle School and High School curriculumPreviously, Tom was North Point MinistriesMulti-Campus Director of Transit, their middle school ministry, for 12 years. And before that, he spent 10 years as a high school teacher, coach, and principal. Additionally, he is the co-author of Lead Small with Reggie Joiner. Tom and his wife, Julie, live in Cumming, Georgia, with their three children, Mac, Joey, and Cooper.



Ashley Bohinc serves as the Director of Middle School Strategy at Orange, co-host of The Think Orange Podcast, and co-author of The Art of Group Talk. She’s worked with students in public education, athletic, and ministry settings since 2005. Ashley is most passionate about resourcing the local church, communicating onstage, developing leaders, working with students, and engaging in world missions. Additionally, she’s the USA Director of Carry 117. In her downtime, you’ll find her watching Friends, cheering on the Cleveland Cavaliers, traveling, reading, or on one of her Fairytale Friday Adventures.



Mikiala is currently living life in Stuart, Florida. She’s the Youth Director at First United Methodist Church of Stuart and has been serving in Stuart for about four years now. Mikiala’s goal is to create and facilitate environments where students can come and engage in worship and relationships that help them grow and take the next step in their faith journey. Stuart is about 30 minutes north of West Palm Beach, so you can catch Mikiala in flip flops all year long!

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Orange Conference 2018