RYM 022: What’s Wrong With The Rockstar Student Pastor Mentality

If you’re a ministry leader or a youth pastor, there are a lot of responsibilities and expectations on your shoulders from week to week. And in the midst of it all, it can be easy to think you have to be the “rockstar” of your ministry to get it all done. This week, join youth leaders for a conversation about what’s wrong with the “rockstar student pastor” mentality and how shifting that mindset can be beneficial for your ministry now and in the future.

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A rockstar student pastor mentality is when the ministry is built around a personality. (4:00)

It’s easy to build a tribe around a person who people think are awesome. But then the whole ministry is built around that person. (5:00)

You don’t have to have a specific type of personality to be an effective student pastor. (11:00)

What’s leading youth pastors into this rockstar mentality? (13:00)

“Make sure you are not asking your students to ask you into their hearts.” (20:30)

The way to build a strong student ministry that lasts long after you are gone is to build it around your small groups and volunteers. (29:00)

As a student pastor, ask yourself: “Do I value my small groups leaders more than I value my role as the student pastor?” (37:00)

Is the brand of your student ministry you, or is it something that God is doing there? (38:00)

There is so much value in giving your ministry away. (44:00)

When people you’ve personally invested in go out and get bigger opportunities than you, smile, be proud of them, and know that you are a better leader for it. (45:00)

Your ministry doesn’t need a rockstar; it needs a leader. (48:00)





CJ is the Managing Editor for XP3 High School and Social Media Strategist for XP3’s blog and social media platforms. CJ has been leading small groups for middle school and high school students at North Point Community Church for the past 10 years. He also placed 5th in his 8th grade class fun run. CJ and his wife, Teri, live in Alpharetta, GA.



Ben is the Creative Director for XP3 High School. He graduated from Lee University in Cleveland, TN where he studied English and begged for food. Prior to working at reThink, Ben was the Creative Director of the high school ministry at North Point Community Church. In his free time, you can find Ben doing the Braves’ Tomahawk Chop, watching non-horror movies, or eating Reese’s Pieces.



Jamey is a pastor, speaker, and writer of student content for North Point Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia. In addition to serving as the Director of High School at the Buckhead campus, he is also one of the voices speaking into the content and strategy for all six locations in the Atlanta area. As a long-time friend of Orange, he’s had the privilege of being a speaker, writer, and creative resource for XP3 Student Curriculum. In his spare time he can be found speaking at student events around the country, coaching new and aspiring communicators, and hanging with his beautiful wife Sara and their two children Cashman and Peyton.



Crystal currently leads the XP3 High School initiative at Orange. Before that, she spent 10 years as a high school teacher and student ministry leader, doing everything from leading small groups to speaking to curriculum design. Crystal and her husband, Tom, live in Alpharetta, GA with an ill-tempered chihuahua named Javier.

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Orange Conference 2018