RYM 007: How Do I Get Better At Speaking?

How often do you speak to students? Whether you communicate to students every week, once a month, or just a couple times per year, chances are, as a communicator, you’ve asked this question: “How do I get better at speaking to students?” Join ministry leaders on this episode for a conversation about getting better as a communicator, and discover practical ways that you can improve as you speak to students.

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How do I get better at speaking to students? (1:15)

What have been Brett, Ashley, Shef, and Jamey’s worst moments while speaking on stage to students? (2:30)

Two pressures that communicators always have are “What am I going to say?” and “Am I going to be ready?” (7:00)

How do you make time to get better while also preparing for a talk? (7:30)

When you’re trying to get better at speaking, who are you supposed to be listening to? (8:00)

Is there a different kind of pressure put on female communicators? (9:00)

It’s important to know what your win is when you’re communicating. (11:45)

How do you personally build your talk? (14:00)

As you are preparing for a talk, work to connect to the real tensions your students are feeling. (17:00)

We have to be comfortable with not memorizing a script, but memorizing the landmarks of a talk. (22:30)

Tell your talk to somebody in two minutes or less. (23:00)

One of the best things you can do to be a better communicator is to know your audience better. (28:00)

The more authentic you are on stage, the more students will be able to connect with you. (28:30)

If you don’t have a story that connects with the tension of your talk, you don’t have a good enough tension. (29:30)

As young communicators, you want to find your own voice, but you might not know your own voice yet. (30:45)

Be intentional about watching other communicators. (31:00)

In weight lifting, you have to increase your reps before you increase your weight. Speaking works the same way. (31:30)

Pick one thing you can work on in your next talk, and then do it. (34:00)





Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his smoking hot wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).



Tom Shefchunas is the Executive Director of Student Strategy at Orange. In this role, he leads the development and strategy for XP3 Middle School and High School curriculum. Previously, Tom was North Point Ministries’ Multi-Campus Director of Transit, their middle school ministry, for 12 years. And before that, he spent 10 years as a high school teacher, coach, and principal. Additionally, he is the co-author of Lead Small with Reggie Joiner. Tom and his wife, Julie, live in Cumming, Georgia, with their three children, Mac, Joey, and Cooper.



Jamey is a pastor, speaker, and writer of student content for North Point Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia. In addition to serving as the Director of High School at the Buckhead campus, he is also one of the voices speaking into the content and strategy for all six locations in the Atlanta area. As a long-time friend of Orange, he’s had the privilege of being a speaker, writer, and creative resource for XP3 Student Curriculum. In his spare time he can be found speaking at student events around the country, coaching new and aspiring communicators, and hanging with his beautiful wife Sara and their two children Cashman and Peyton.



Ashley Bohinc serves as the Director of Middle School Strategy at Orange, co-host of The Think Orange Podcast, and co-author of The Art of Group Talk. She’s worked with students in public education, athletic, and ministry settings since 2005. Ashley is most passionate about resourcing the local church, communicating onstage, developing leaders, working with students, and engaging in world missions. Additionally, she’s the USA Director of Carry 117. In her downtime, you’ll find her watching Friends, cheering on the Cleveland Cavaliers, traveling, reading, or on one of her Fairytale Friday Adventures.

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Orange Conference 2018