Married and in Ministry: The Chase

Married and in Ministry: The Chase

Ever known someone who seems able to push all your buttons? Maybe a neighbor, co-worker, family member—even your spouse? They often do or say something that elicits a repeat negative response in you. You may even catch yourself thinking, He/she just brings out the worst in me! So how does this cycle of conflict get started? Where does it come from? Quite simply, we are imperfect people born to imperfect people. We are broken. And, in the case of married couples, our brokenness marries our... Read More
Married and in Ministry: How to Get Unstuck

Married and in Ministry: How to Get Unstuck

When couples find themselves “stuck” (maybe they just don’t feel their marriage is working, or maybe it seems it has never really worked at all), what do they do? What does any of us do to get unstuck? When we’re stuck, we may … Try harder. Stop trying, but stay together for the kids. Stop trying, but stay together because we don’t believe in divorce. Stop trying altogether, and separate or divorce. THE FALLACY OF DOING OR BEING BETTER These reactions seem logical. We think the answers to... Read More
Married and in Ministry: Are You Having Serious Fun?

Married and in Ministry: Are You Having Serious Fun?

No one enters a marriage hoping for failure. Most couples start out with a huge amount of optimism, excited about the future that lies ahead. But your “best us”—attaining the best version of your marriage—doesn’t just happen. Even if (or maybe that’s, “especially if”) you’re in ministry. Over the next few weeks, we’ll take a look at four practical action steps you can take to stay connected to each other and committed to becoming your best us. Here’s the first one … ACTION STEP 1: HAVE SERIOUS... Read More
2 Reasons and 6 Ways to Make Marriage Events the Best Entry Point Into Your Church

2 Reasons and 6 Ways to Make Marriage Events the Best Entry Point Into Your Church

In 2001, we started creating quarterly, one-night marriage events at our church. I knew one of our biggest hurdles would be to make the event appealing to the men of our church. Notice, I said the men of our church, emphasis on church. Because I never dreamed that a marriage event would be a good place for our regular attenders to invite their non-church going or non-believing family, friends, and neighbors . . . especially if they happen to be male. Why? Because, typically, it’s men who don’t... Read More
What’s The Best Gift Your Church Can Give A Kid?

What’s The Best Gift Your Church Can Give A Kid?

by Ted Lowe While my primary focus at Orange is MarriedPeople, I still have the privilege of connecting with leaders who work with children and youth. While every church is different, the struggles I hear from those who work with kids are often the same. I recently talked with a children’s pastor who came to my marriage ministry breakout at Orange Tour. She said she was seeking answers to the constant barrage of “sad stories” happening at her church. Some of her “best families” had determined... Read More