Whether you’ve already had some tough conversations with some students in your ministry, or whether you haven’t walked that road yet, here’s the truth: Tough conversations are bound to happen at some point for everyone who works with students. That’s why it’s crucial for us to be prepared and equipped for those moments when they come up. In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when a student comes to you with something difficult, how to respond, and the best way to maintain their trust.
- Common hard conversations youth ministry workers may have with students (2:25)
- Some conversations youth ministry leaders can anticipate with middle school and high school students and how to respond (10:27)
- The danger of not having a strategy in approaching hard conversations with students (22:05)
- How to prepare for difficult conversations with students (24:57)
- How to prepare for the journey of what’s to come following difficult conversations (34:57)
- The win with having tough conversations with these students (39:38)
QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE
It’s natural for us to dismiss our students’ experiences. We have to be careful in the way we respond—we can either make them feel valued or undervalued. —Brett Talley Click To TweetWhen navigating difficult conversations, you don't need to be the master resource. You need to be the master of resources. —Ashley Bohinc Click To TweetStudent vulnerability is bravery. —Sara Shelton Click To TweetThere is an art to preserving trust in the midst of getting students the help they need. —Ashley Bohinc Click To TweetWhen we start putting ourselves in situations where we are the fixer of our students' problems or keeper of their secrets, we create so many more issues that could completely break their trust in us, other adults, and in the… Click To Tweet
VOICES IN THIS EPISODE
Ashley Bohinc serves as the Director of Middle School Strategy at Orange, is the co-host of The Think Orange Podcast, and co-authored The Art of Group Talk. She’s worked with students in public education, athletic, and ministry settings since 2005. Ashley is most passionate about resourcing the local church, communicating onstage, developing leaders, working with students, and engaging in world missions. Additionally, she’s the USA Director of Carry 117, a ministry in Ethiopia which focuses on orphan prevention and family preservation by empowering women. In her downtime, you’ll find her watching Friends, cheering on the Cleveland Cavaliers, traveling, reading, or on one of her Fairytale Friday Adventures.
Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).
Sara Shelton is a writer and communicator who has been serving in student and small group ministry since 2006. She serves as both a writer and editor for the XP3 Middle and High School teams. Sara is passionate about helping girls find freedom and identity in Jesus and equipping other leaders to help their students do the same. (And brunch . . . she’s also really passionate about brunch.) In her free time, you can find Sara at the movies, spending time with friends, or trying to cross the next travel adventure off her bucket list.
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