In the unrelenting pace of youth ministry, it’s easy to slip into an, “I’ve got this. How hard can it be to talk to someone of the opposite gender?” mentality. But there ARE differences, and those differences are important to consider if we want the things we communicate from stage to land with both guys AND girls every week. In this episode, join ministry leaders for a conversation about the best ways to connect and engage with students of the opposite gender and the importance of having equal representation on your youth ministry team.
- Serving co-ed small groups and what you need to know (2:42)
- Why gender-specific small groups are important and at what age you should start them (3:26)
- Women leaders should stop apologizing for the way they’re wired (5:55)
- How to encourage women to be leaders (9:27)
- What men in leadership can do to help support women in cultivating their leadership skills (13:15)
- Policies you can put in place to ensure there is more balance on your leadership team (14:50)
- Be a student of the opposite gender (17:46)
- The filters we need to have in place to be better communicators (20:29)
- Recognizing stereotypes and blind spots in your language (22:41)
- The power of inviting feedback, having support, and being vulnerable in your journey to honing your leadership skills (26:18)
- The thing every student you lead wants from you is to know you love them and you love God (31:14)
QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE
Female leaders: Stop apologizing for being great, for being strong, for being smart, for being bold, and for having a leadership personality. —@jameyd Click To TweetIn this generation, we have the power to scrub out the idea in our girls that they can’t lead. —@Coachshef Click To TweetYou can’t teach from a perspective you don’t have. One of the best things you can do is ask someone else for help. —@CrystalcChiang Click To TweetIf I'm going to be an effective communicator to a diverse audience, I have to have a filter. —@Coachshef Click To TweetThe most compelling thing about you to your students is that you love Jesus and you love them. —@jameyd Click To Tweet
VOICES IN THIS EPISODE
Sarah is a writer and communicator who has been involved in ministry since 2003. In 2007, she joined the XP3 high school team where she now works as a lead writer and content creator. She also a contributing writer to the Parent Cue blog. Sarah lives in Roswell, Georgia, and is a big fan of her husband, her two boys, Asher and Pace, and, in her weaker moments, McDonald’s french fries.
Tom is the Executive Director of Student Strategy at Orange. In this role, he leads the development and strategy for XP3 Middle School and High School curriculum. Previously, Tom was North Point Ministries’ Multi-Campus Director of Transit, their middle school ministry, for 12 years. And before that, he spent 10 years as a high school teacher, coach, and principal. Additionally, he is the co-author of Lead Smallwith Reggie Joiner. Tom and his wife, Julie, live in Cumming, Georgia, with their three children, Mac, Joey, and Cooper.
Crystal currently leads the XP3 High School initiative at Orange. Before that, she spent 10 years as a high school teacher and student ministry leader, doing everything from leading small groups to speaking to curriculum design. Crystal and her husband, Tom, live in Alpharetta, GA with an ill-tempered chihuahua named Javier.
Jamey is a pastor, speaker, and writer of student content for North Point Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia. In addition to serving as the Director of High School at the Buckhead campus, he is also one of the voices speaking into the content and strategy for all six locations in the Atlanta area. As a long-time friend of Orange, he’s had the privilege of being a speaker, writer, and creative resource for XP3 Student Curriculum. In his spare time he can be found speaking at student events around the country, coaching new and aspiring communicators, and hanging with his beautiful wife, Sara, and their two children, Cashman and Peyton.
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