RYM 053: “I’m Just A Youth Pastor” And Other Lies We Tell Ourselves

“When are you going to be a real pastor?” “If you just teach Sunday School, what else do you do during the week?” “Where do you see yourself in five years?” If you’re a youth pastor, you’ve probably been asked these questions before—or maybe you’re asking them yourself. How do you answer these questions? This week, join us as we talk about combating misconceptions in youth ministry, building personal confidence, and addressing the lies we tell ourselves about being a youth worker.

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EPISODE RECAP

  • “When are you going to be a real pastor?” (3:50)
  • It’s one thing to be a youth pastor. It’s another thing to be a middle school pastor because it feels like a step down. (5:45)
  • Being cool and relevant aren’t the same thing. (8:30)
  • Young people are going to connect best with the oldest person in the room that takes them seriously. (9:00)
  • It’s not about the size of our youth ministry, it’s about the quality of youth ministry that we’re offering. (10:00)
  • People assume you don’t want to stay in youth ministry forever. (14:00)
  • With all callings you have to have an open hand. (15:30)
  • Give your all where you’re at. (24:00)
  • How you feel on a weekly basis is not the determining factor on the amount of influence you’re having on students long-term. (28:00)
  • There’s a difference between what you’re responsible with and what you’re responsible for. (30:00)
  • Your confidence has to come from within, not from the outside. (31:00)
  • As youth pastors, we have the opportunity to influence and shape the people our students will become. (34:00)
  • What can we do to adjust the misconceptions about what we actually do? (35:00)

RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE

Resource – Rethinking Youth Ministry Women’s Network

Resource – XP3 Partner Group 

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VOICES IN THIS EPISODE

BRETT TALLEY

BRETT TALLEY

Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).

CHARLIE CONDER

CHARLIE CONDER

Charlie is an XP3 Orange Specialist at Orange after spending the past 20 years working with students in educational and ministry settings. Most recently, Charlie spent 12 years as the middle school youth pastor in a thriving Methodist church in the Metro Atlanta area. Charlie grew up in rural Illinois but has been living in metro Atlanta, GA for the past 14 years. She lives with her husband Eric, her sometimes snarky but lovable daughter, and their three pups.

ASHLEY BOHINC

ASHLEY BOHINC

Ashley Bohinc serves as the Director of Middle School Strategy at Orange, is the co-host of The Think Orange Podcast, and co-authored The Art of Group Talk. She’s worked with students in public education, athletic, and ministry settings since 2005. Ashley is most passionate about resourcing the local church, communicating onstage, developing leaders, working with students, and engaging in world missions. Additionally, she’s the USA Director of Carry 117, a ministry in Ethiopia which focuses on orphan prevention and family preservation by empowering women. In her downtime, you’ll find her watching Friends, cheering on the Cleveland Cavaliers, traveling, reading, or on one of her Fairytale Friday Adventures.

TYREKE WESLEY

TYREKE WESLEY

Tyreke Wesley is an engaging communicator with a purpose to help people take the next step forward. In 2011, he obtained his Bachelor’s degree from Morehouse college, followed by a Masters in Divinity from The Candler School of Theology at Emory University in 2014. Tyreke is serving as a Teacher in South West Atlanta and a Youth Minister at The Breakthrough Fellowship in Smyrna, GA. He has worked with inner-city youth for over ten years. Tyreke is devoted to his beautiful wife, Shakeira Wesley, and his two amazing and talented children, Tyson and Jordyn.

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Orange Conference 2018