RYM 044: Engaging Unengaged Students In Youth Ministry

We all have programs and events that our students and volunteers love and might be working well. But what happens when that program doesn’t exactly align with the vision of your ministry? Or when you can’t name the reason behind having the event in the first place? On this episode, join ministry leaders for a conversation about why you should kill something that’s working and how you can replace it with something that better aligns with the purpose and vision of your youth ministry.

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Who is the unengaged student and what do they look like? (3:00)

Engaged students grow. (3:30)

The most disengaged students are the ones we need to reach the most. (4:00)

An unengaged student can be present, but not engaged in what’s happening. (5:00)

What causes students to disengage? (7:30)

Sometimes students don’t engage because they don’t know how to engage. (8:00)

A disengaged student is one who is no longer choosing to take steps in their relationship with Jesus. (9:00)

Attendance does not equal engagement. (10:00)

There is a difference between a student being engaged in their faith and being engaged in your program. (10:30)

Ask yourself, “What are we doing this week during our programming that students will be talking about tomorrow?” (15:30)

If you want students to engage with your program, you need to engage with them outside of your program. (16:00)

If you want students to engage with you when you’re on stage, you need to engage with them when you’re not on stage. (16:00)

Check in with parents and students when students seem disengaged to cue them to reengage. (23:00)

Engage your students through casting vision and by giving them opportunities to serve. (26:00)

How do you engage disengaged students? (28:00)


Resource: Green Yellow Red System And Student Engagement Plan – This resource is available through Jamey exclusively. Reach out to him on Instagram for a link to this downloadable resource!


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CJ is the Managing Editor for XP3 High School and Social Media Strategist for XP3’s blog and social media platforms. CJ has been leading small groups for middle school and high school students at North Point Community Church for the past 10 years. He also placed 5th in his 8th grade class fun run. CJ and his wife, Teri, live in Alpharetta, GA.



Gerald Fadayomi leads the High School ministry (InsideOut) at Browns Bridge Church, a North Point Ministries church in Cumming, Georgia. His passion for the next generation is displayed through his communicating and writing, but is best seen when he is hanging with a group of students at a Friday night football game or a Friday morning FCA. His hope is to inspire the next generation to love God and influence their peers by living life counter-cultural. He is an Atlanta native and loves doing life and ministry with his wife, Kiley Fadayomi.


Ashley Bohinc serves as the Director of Middle School Strategy at Orange, co-host of The Think Orange Podcast, and co-author of The Art of Group Talk. She’s worked with students in public education, athletic, and ministry settings since 2005. Ashley is most passionate about resourcing the local church, communicating onstage, developing leaders, working with students, and engaging in world missions. Additionally, she’s the USA Director of Carry 117. In her downtime, you’ll find her watching Friends, cheering on the Cleveland Cavaliers, traveling, reading, or on one of her Fairytale Friday Adventures.



Jamey is a pastor, speaker, and writer of student content for North Point Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia. In addition to serving as the Director of High School at the Buckhead campus, he is also one of the voices speaking into the content and strategy for all six locations in the Atlanta area. As a long-time friend of Orange, he’s had the privilege of being a speaker, writer, and creative resource for XP3 Student Curriculum. In his spare time he can be found speaking at student events around the country, coaching new and aspiring communicators, and hanging with his beautiful wife Sara and their two children Cashman and Peyton.

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Orange Conference 2018