Let’s be honest: No one loves to be criticized. Especially when the criticism is given the wrong way or by the wrong person. However, if we learn to receive criticism with the right mindset, as ministry leaders, speakers, and youth workers, we have an opportunity to grow from it. This week, join Jamey Dickens, Ben Crawshaw, Crystal Chiang, and Sarah Anderson, for a conversation about embracing criticism and the value of asking those around you, “What’s it like to be on the other side of me?”
Take the “360 Survey.” Ask your family members, your coworkers, your boss, your family, and friends, “What’s it like to be on the other side of me?” (4:00)
What is the worst, or most entertaining, criticism you’ve ever received? (5:00)
What’s the best kind of legitimate criticism you’ve received? (8:00)
Ask yourself, “Is how I did who I am?” (11:40)
If you are able to separate your performance from who you are, taking criticism gets easier to do. (12:00)
There is something in every criticism that you can take away. (14:00)
How you did is not who you are. (26:00)
When it comes to receiving criticism, approaching it as a learner changes everything. (36:00)
Part of how you deal with the criticism you didn’t ask for is having a bank of data that you did ask for. (36:45)
Be proactive, not reactive, to criticism. (37:00)
Being proactive with criticism means surrounding yourself with the right people, who will give you the right kind of criticism, at the right time, in the right way. (37:10)
There is a difference between feedback and criticism. (37:30)
When you take a 360 survey, remember to ask the right people the right questions: What’s it like to be on the other side of me? How do I handle conflict? What are some of my greatest strengths? What are some of biggest weaknesses? (43:00)
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“How you did is not who you are.” - @jameyd Click To Tweet“There is something in every criticism that you can take away.” - @jameyd Click To Tweet“When it comes to receiving criticism, approaching it as a learner changes everything.” Click To Tweet“Part of how you embrace the criticism you didn’t ask for is having a bank of data that you did ask for.” - @CrystalCChiang Click To Tweet
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Sarah is a writer and communicator who has been involved in ministry since 2003. In 2007, she joined the XP3 high school team where she now works as a lead writer and content creator. She also a contributing writer to the Parent Cue blog. Sarah lives in Roswell, Georgia, and is a big fan of her husband, her two boys, Asher and Pace, and, in her weaker moments, McDonald’s french fries.
Ben is the Creative Director for XP3 High School. He graduated from Lee University in Cleveland, TN where he studied English and begged for food. Prior to working at reThink, Ben was the Creative Director of the high school ministry at North Point Community Church. In his free time, you can find Ben doing the Braves’ Tomahawk Chop, watching non-horror movies, or eating Reese’s Pieces.
Jamey is a pastor, speaker, and writer of student content for North Point Ministries in Atlanta, Georgia. In addition to serving as the Director of High School at the Buckhead campus, he is also one of the voices speaking into the content and strategy for all six locations in the Atlanta area. As a long-time friend of Orange, he’s had the privilege of being a speaker, writer, and creative resource for XP3 Student Curriculum. In his spare time he can be found speaking at student events around the country, coaching new and aspiring communicators, and hanging with his beautiful wife Sara and their two children Cashman and Peyton.
Crystal currently leads the XP3 High School initiative at Orange. Before that, she spent 10 years as a high school teacher and student ministry leader, doing everything from leading small groups to speaking to curriculum design. Crystal and her husband, Tom, live in Alpharetta, GA with an ill-tempered chihuahua named Javier.
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