RYM 008: Killing The Spider With Carlos Whittaker

We all have cobwebs in our lives—things we’re not proud of and things we wish we could get rid of. But if we’re going to get rid of the cobwebs, it’s not enough to simply clean the cobwebs. We need to kill the spider. In his new book, “Kill the Spider,” Carlos Whittaker talks about killing the spiders in our lives—the things really holding us back. On today’s episode, join ministry leaders for a conversation with Carlos to find out how you can kill your spiders and how, as youth ministry leaders, we can help students do the same.

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CJ and Brett introduce Carlos. (1:30)

Carlos talks about what led him to write his new book, Kill the Spider. (6:00)

A spider is an agreement with a lie that you believe. A cobweb is a medicator that brings false comfort to a lie. (9:00)

We all have various lies that in some way are affecting our behaviors. (10:30)

We have to identify, locate, corner, and kill the spiders in our lives. (10:45)

Nine times out of ten, these lies are born before you are an adult. (11:00)

Cleaning cobwebs is easier than killing spiders. (13:15)

Sometimes, we don’t even see the spider. (14:30)

We don’t deal with cobwebs until they are right in our face. (15:00)

You don’t have to deal with the cobweb if the spider is dead. (15:30)

It takes risk in order for students to be rescued out of their circumstances. (17:30)

How can we best help students kill spiders instead of killing cobwebs? By replacing a lie with truth. (18:30)

It’s important that we are creating and instilling a culture of vulnerability in our students’ small groups. (22:00)

The power of our words have authority over our lives. (27:00)

What’s at stake if we don’t kill the spider? (27:30)

When people don’t kill their spiders, they may never reach the potential that God has for them. (28:30)

Spiders are born every day, so we have to kill them quickly. (39:00)





CJ is the Managing Editor for XP3 High School and Social Media Strategist for XP3’s blog and social media platforms. CJ has been leading small groups for middle school and high school students at North Point Community Church for the past 10 years. He also placed 5th in his 8th grade class fun run. CJ and his wife, Teri, live in Alpharetta, GA.



Brett is an XP3 Orange Specialist with Orange after spending 11 years in full time ministry. He’s been married to his smoking hot wife since 2004. They have three amazing and hilarious kids who constantly keep them busy and laughing. He loves baseball, golf and makes amazing turkey melt sandwiches (if he has the time and ingredients, otherwise they’re just average).

Carlos Whittaker

Carlos Whittaker

Carlos Whittaker is a renowned musician, blogger, speaker, and author of Kill the Spider and Moment Maker. He has been the worship leader for Andy Stanley’s Buckhead Church in Atlanta and on the leadership team for Catalyst. He currently attends The Belonging in Nashville. He and his wife Heather and their three children live in Nashville, Tenn. To learn more about Whittaker, visit www.CarlosWhittaker.com.

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