The Space Between: My Youth Ministry Soapbox

The Space Between: My Youth Ministry Soapbox

Within minutes, a simple yet loaded question sparked a conversation in a youth ministry group that I’m a part of—a group of people I love and appreciate. It was hypothetical in nature, but also pretty specific in application. There were some differing ideas. There were differing feelings, too. But differences don’t worry me so much. I’m so glad we are not all the same. What catapults me to soapbox status about this is the sin I see. It’s not in you, but in we. It’s in all of us. When we spend... Read More
What to Say When the Unthinkable Happens

What to Say When the Unthinkable Happens

As I prepared for youth group last week after the news of the tragedy in Parkland, FL, I had more than a message on my mind. I was wondering how our families were doing emotionally. I was wondering if we needed to have additional security meetings. I was wondering about what to say, not only to our students but to my own children as well. Today, when the fire alarm sounded at one of our local high schools, the students sat quietly in their chairs. To them, the alarm doesn’t mean a fire drill... Read More
What to Think When the Unthinkable Happens

What to Think When the Unthinkable Happens

I’m writing this on Wednesday—seven days since the Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School shooting. The loss of life has been unthinkable. I predict every Wednesday for a long time will be tender and delicate, needing extra attention. I’m currently a volunteer youth pastor in Florida. I’m a parent, and I write books and blogs for parents. None of this experience registers when I try to fathom the shock, loss, and grief that have made their home in Parkland this week. I have fewer thoughts,... Read More
Being the Worst Best Volunteer Leader

Being the Worst Best Volunteer Leader

Does this Wednesday night sound familiar to you? I get home after leading small group around 10:45pm.  I kick off my shoes.  My brain glitches, and my thoughts begin to spin. I drift between Netflix and randomly scrolling Instagram pictures of other people’s pets. Then, in the middle of decompressing, my phone screen lights up. My thoughts? Shoot, I was just getting to the good pug pictures. I haven’t slowed down all day. In the name of Chick-fil-A sauce, I refuse to look at my phone right... Read More
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